realloveforever

Sheikh Nazim

Our Grandsheikh Abdullah is speaking (is sending to my heart) about love. There was one
mureed in Daghestan who was on a high degree of love, a strong lover of Allah and the Prophet
Muhammad (sal). He was saying about the love between people and that so many people are
liking one another but that we cannot accept this love until it is tested to be true or not. A love
that is true for only seven days, or seven months, or seven years and then on the eighth goes
away, that is not love. How is that love described? You may see in your friend a no good word
or action, and become angry with him and cut that love. Any love ending in enmity is not real
love. We must love for the sake of Allah, then there is always forgiveness, and a love that is
never ending. Real love must be forever.

If I like you and you are grinding me in a mill, and if it is possible for me to come out whole –
after suffering all that crushing, if my love for you changes, it is not real love. Who is in love for
the sake of Allah, will be on Mimbars of Light on the Last Day, says the Prophet Muhammad
(sal). All people will ask, “Who are these, Prophets?” Angels will answer: “No, they are lovers
for the sake of Allah.” If love is for this life and the ego’s enjoyment, then it is no real love. An
important characteristic for believers is to love for the sake of Allah, even if it be to love only one
person.

Our Grandsheikh said to me that there were two mureeds in his homeland who would sometimes
meet and assault one another with words – saying to each other all manner of things. Then they
would look to each other’s heart to see if there came any effect from the cursing, but no
change. Next, with their hands they would slap each other until they got tired then they would
sit down and blow on their hands. Still, not changing in love. Finally they would beat each other
with sticks, until they fell down, then they would laugh together. Here Satan would become very
angry and run away. To be like this is the highest degree of love, and for Awliya (saints) their
love never changes, come what may from people. This is the love that Tariqat teaches us to
endure. If one gets angry, it means, no real love in his heart. We must accept the faults of
people, as we all have so many faults. We must be tolerant and compassionate.

Our Grandsheikh says if a man loves a person, he never sees any disliked thing; every thing is
perfect, his features, his speaking and actions. By practicing, you may be on that station. Like
Layla and Majnun, he loved everything belonging to her, her dogs, her village, including even the
stones. Perfect love results in looking to a person and seeing all perfection. For a lover, nothing
can be disliked in his beloved; if we see people in perfection, we will like them. Because
everyone is unique in His creation, there is complete and special perfection with him. Even
physically, each one is a special individual. This is from Allah’s endless power, to make
everyone unique. Looking with these eyes, our hearts must incline to at least be friends with
everybody. Then everybody also comes to us with friendship, and then friendship will lead to
love. As much as we are loving people, we are strong in love for the Lord. Look always at
people’s perfection and search for their good actions. Allah orders, don’t look at people’s faults,
it brings you to hate and enmity. You will come down to these same faults. You must keep
your eyes.

The End